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28 Days to LOVE ~ Day 19

Love Excellently-Love is never rude…

Love is kind and patient,
   never jealous, boastful,
   proud, or rude.
   Love isn’t selfish
   or quick tempered. 
It doesn’t keep a record
   of wrongs that others do.
   Love rejoices in the truth,
   but not in evil.
   Love is always supportive,
   loyal, hopeful,
   and trusting.
   Love never fails!
1 Corinthians 13:4-8 Contemporary English Versions…

Love Excellently-Love is never rude-

Encouragement Shared:
Rude defined by Merriam-Webster;  lacking refinement or delicacy: offensive in manner or action: marked by or suggestive of lack of training or skill :  The definition of the three that stands out the most is lacking refinement or delicacy – We certainly do not desire to be women who lack refinement of delicacy despite what the world looks like or says.  In marriage in courtship we need refinement and delicacy… Refinement in speech; refinement in our appearance and that comes through the wisdom of God’s word… Delicacy shows the original divine design we have been created to be when God formed us in the womb.  [Psalm 139] …  The truth is we should not behave in a offensive manner toward anyone especially our husbands, and if we do display that offensive behavior and it’s brought to our attention, we need to apologize immediately.   We also do not want to avenge or teach our husbands a lesson  through that kind of display.  Remember love is not easily angered, or self seeking which is selfish, it keeps no records of wrongs.  So there is no place for rude behavior within the marriage.  Rudeness states:  “I am better than you!”  – “I am more important than you!”…Therefore that means I have no respect for you.  Lack of respect for our husbands is like a demolition bomb for destruction in our marriage.  I know this for a fact because it is the exact way I treated my ex-husband.  It is a demeaning way to approach a difficult conversation; disagreement or circumstance.  The Proverbs state; A kindhearted woman gains respect. Proverbs 11:6- Our desire is to be a kindhearted woman that gains respect.



God’s Word –’Be holy because I, the LORD your God, am holy.” Leviticus 19:2

Encouragement Shared:   First thing when I woke up, my thoughts went to God’s word; “Be Holy because I, am holy. Peter quoted this from Leviticus 19:2 the old testament scriptures in 1 Peter Chapter 1 where he is encouraging us to “Be Holy” – He is a Holy God and we need to reverence Him in all things. 
Put to Death Old Self and Put on Love:
We need to put to death our ways of thinking, trust in the Lord with all our heart and not lean on our own understanding. [Proverbs 3:4; 5]  As I began to prepare for my day, I could not help to think how hard it is to be loving when someone has wrong you; or to show compassion to the emotional person when they continually treat us in an impatient manor because their going through a rough time perhaps just in a bad mood.  The most difficult characteristics for me to forgive are controlling people.  I seriously need to pray and fast over my heart so that I can be clothed with compassion, kindness, humility lots and lots of it.  I only have the ability to do any good thing; through the power of Christ.  My sisters I know that this is not easy-but Jesus himself says; For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins. [Matthew 6] The root of un-forgiveness is anger, Jesus warns us in the Sermon on the Mount- [Matthew Chapter 5] regarding anger  before we offer any sacrifice to the Lord go and be reconciled to our brother [sister].  Not displaying forgiveness is anger and anger is Danger without the “D”.  Yes so we must truly rely on Christ on all these matters let go those emotions that keep us imprisoned within our self; especially in our marriages, the work place and our relationships with others.  It is only through Christ we bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity. My beautiful sisters just know that to forgive is “Freedom” , so ponder these things as you go through the day today. Peace be with you!
Heavenly Father,
We thank you for the gift of Christ, that shed his blood on Calvary for all our transgressions and sins.  Your daughters will seek the truth of your word to forgive and we will bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances we may have against one another. Forgive as you Lord forgave us. Your daughters will put to death our old way of thinking and put on love so we may live in perfect unity. We thank you for bringing us from strength to strength – glory to glory through the power of Christ in us.  It is in Jesus name we pray…Amen!
Mercy, peace and love be yours in abundance,
Love in Christ,
Jennifer Pettiford